Instead of holding a grudge against my partner or get frustrated that he does not always remember things that I say or ask him, I calmly repeat myself and remind myself that it has less to do with me and more about whatever’s occupying his mind. I have compassion for myself (I have hypervigilant tendencies so I tend to over-obsess and remember everything) and compassion for him (because I probably hold him to the same standard I do to myself) and instead remember that what is most important is that I show up in the present moment and not to take things he says (or forgets) personally.